There’s no shame in being disappointed in your sex life. In fact, almost half of all millennial women aren’t enjoying their sex lives. So what do you do if you feel like the spark between you and your partner is gone?
While good sex can seem like an ephemeral thing that can only be accomplished at the moment, there are many actionable things you can do to have a better sex life. A great sex life means a strong relationship and improvements in health and wellness.
This article will walk you through some quick tips to improving your sex life.
Open Up
One of the key things that leads to an unsatisfying sex life is a lack of communication. Sexual miscommunications can be a microcosm of larger communication problems in the marriage. If there are some things you’ve left unaddressed, you always need to deal with them.
Have an evening where you can be open and honest with each other about your fantasies, concerns, and sexual expectations with each other. See where your fantasies line up, which compromises you can make for problems, and talk about ways you can meet each other’s expectations.
If your sex life has only continued to get worse, there might be deeper issues in the relationship. Head over to marriage helper if you’d like to learn more ways to save your marriage.
Know Your Sexuality
As important as it is to communicate with your partner, it’s just as important to make sure you understand your own body and your own needs. Do some soul searching.
When you have some alone time, perhaps you can explore some erotica and pornography, to see if there are any avenues in your sexuality that you haven’t explored. How can you expect your partner to satisfy you if you don’t even know what satisfies you?
Get In Touch With Your Body
Your sexuality isn’t just about your genitals and secondary sex characteristics. Every part of your body is capable of giving and receiving pleasure. Understand your body, and you’ll gain the keys to the kingdom when it comes to sexuality.
Do you have avenues of physicality you’ve always been interested in but haven’t explored? Now could be a good time to explore them. Taking up Yoga and dance are particularly conducive to understanding your body sensually.
Set a Schedule
While it might seem unnatural, a surprising amount of people schedule their sex. It’s a common technique for saving sex lives. Scheduling sex isn’t about imposing structure on your life, but instead about making sure that you make time to please each other.
You Can Have a Better Sex Life
While it’s discouraging to have a poor sex life, it’s not uncommon. Open up about your desires, learn to understand your own sexuality, get in touch with your body, and set a schedule and you’re likely to gain back that old spark.
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